Many of the couples I work with are accomplished, perceptive, and used to solving problems. But the relationship has become the one thing they cannot think their way through.
Long-term relationships can feel like pressure cookers — where accumulated misunderstandings, unmet needs, and unspoken grief ferment until they boil over. Sometimes couples come to therapy in crisis, sometimes in quiet longing to reconnect, and other times the intention is to strengthen and deepen a relationship that is in good enough shape. All are expressions of devotion. To seek help is to say: this matters enough to tend to.
In this work, we attend not just to conflict resolution or communication skills, but to the soul of the relationship itself. That soul includes beauty and burden, dreams and disappointments. Sometimes what looks like incompatibility is simply two people carrying different kinds of grief. Sometimes the argument is not about what is happening now, but about something long left unspoken. We slow down enough to listen.
I work with couples navigating:
- Recurring arguments that end with neither partner feeling understood
- Emotional distance, disconnection, or loss of intimacy
- Infidelity, betrayal, or broken trust
- Parenting disagreements and the strain of raising children together
- Major life transitions — relocation, career change, retirement, loss
- The question of whether to stay or leave
- Premarital work for couples wanting a stronger foundation
I have worked with couples across every stage of partnership — from newly committed to decades in. This work draws from Gestalt therapy, relational psychodynamic approaches, and years of sitting with couples in their most vulnerable and honest moments.
It is not shameful to need support — it is a mark of wisdom. Therapy becomes a place to remember what brought you together and face what is now asking to be seen. It is not always about mending what is torn. Sometimes it is about bearing witness to what loving each other truly costs — and still choosing to stay.
