Couples Counseling: The Work of Staying
Long-term relationships can feel like pressure cookers—where accumulated misunderstandings, unmet needs, and unspoken grief ferment until they boil over. Sometimes couples come to therapy in crisis, sometimes in quiet longing to reconnect, and other times the intention is to strengthen and deepen a relationship that is “in good enough shape.” All are expressions of devotion. To seek help is to say: this matters enough to tend to.
In this work, we attend not just to conflict resolution or communication skills, but to the soul of the relationship itself. That soul includes beauty and burden, dreams and disappointments. Sometimes what looks like incompatibility is simply two people carrying different kinds of grief. Sometimes we find that the argument is not about what’s happening now, but about something long left unspoken. We slow down enough to listen.
I’ve worked with couples across every stage of partnership. It is not shameful to need support—it is, in fact, a mark of wisdom. Therapy becomes a ceremony of remembering what brought you together, and facing what is now asking to be seen. It isn’t always about mending what’s torn. Sometimes, it’s about bearing witness to what loving each other truly costs—and still choosing to stay.
